Creating an interesting gay personal ad

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As of today’s date, I’ve re-edited this article to inject new life into it and make it more engaging and delightful for you out there who are on the lookout for tips on coming up with fascinating ads, which are tools to help you attract the type of partners, friends, acquaintances that will satisfy the conditions you’ve set in life. You may also be posting an ad for some other kind of services you may need. The whole point of posting an ad is to create, attract the right kind of attention and make others take action to meet your needs and wants. Of course, please find time to read the article/s found in the same title, which may help you in your efforts.

My inputs have been based from personal experiences; they’re sure to have been learned from a number of mistakes I made (or some people I know have committed). I once had a very busy small business advertising my massage services for at least 3 years or so, which story I’ll probably write on sometime. In the meantime, indulge me by reading my tips found in the link. Posting ads and getting appropriate responses, despite your usual fears, is a process that’s largely a trial and error experience; if you’re impatient just pay a good PR person with good money to do the works for you. I could very well use the help, too, from a PR person but I’m focused on growing and profiting from my small businesses now.

Do gay personal ads ever get to be read at all? I think so, hence, there are a lot of people still going out of their way to advertise, promote what they’ve got. Advertising, in all its many amusing forms, has been part and parcel of our everyday. It’s been like that, even during the times of the ancient Romans – check out the graffiti that some of these ancient dudes have posted for some of us readers nowadays still get to read (but may not really understand soon enough). They’re all ads, one way or another. And they’re still catching our attention because they work, either because they have the right form or the correct content that connects with the reader’s senses. We also need to remember these ancient peoples had outlooks in life that cover what we still consider as choosing over what are very material, basic these days: fame, fortune, and good health. We need to advertise for help so these values will come into place in our lives, which is tactical and practical if we’re in serious business now.

And, to make your ad interesting, you gotta be interesting yourself first. Well, that’s a focus of attention altogether.

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‘”Hungry, But Not Starving!” (or What to Keep in Mind in Job Hunting During A Downturn Period!)

In today’s job market situation, you get to encounter a lot of ridiculous postings on Craigslist (and perhaps, other job sites as well).  They make you think twice or do more pondering as to how these employers or prospective clients have sensed to figure out how to take advantage of people’s desperation to get jobs…well, to tell you honestly, and from my previous experience doing HR work for nearly 20 years, you won’t ever get a job because you are in a desperate situation.  You get the job because you’re the best fit, nothing more, nothing less.

And here’s more: the more you allow yourself to be taken advantaged of because you’re in a desperate situation, the more you keep away from getting what you think you deserve.

Of course, employers are almost always in search of those who are hungry, but they’d definitely won’t deal with someone starving. Most employers are starving themselves, given the thin profit margins of most businesses nowadays (even those in most stable industries). Just observe how people react to beggars asking for money from strangers who we assume will take pity on them as they leverage on their expectation that people will eventually hand them money out of pity or disgust at viewing such a site of not of their choice.  Most employers will take in someone who looks less starving than themselves; they’re on the look out for someone who can bring a value or two to sustain the operations of their business.

Well, this cycle of giving and receiving in all its manifestation does not work that way as it seems to be on the surface. People give out and share out mainly because they’d like to be reassured that they still have a better situation currently that the one who’s in dire straits in front of them (whoever the case maybe).  It’s the principle of acting out your natural curiosity, and behaving parasitically about it such that you actually go out of your way to provide support in a way you can afford or extend on what’s available on hand in the belief you’re still doing better, despite of.  Some writers I read have labeled this behavior: “parasitically supportive curiosity.”  See it for yourself in practice.  Such behaviors happen even in environments where the wealthiest linger, or live. The rich will usually just extend help just as to reassure themselves “they’re not doing worst at all despite the bad economy, or the lousy business results.”

So what do you need to keep in mind? Some pointers I’ve collected, tested, and re-used myself:
1) Be strategic.  Work on your own strengths, and focus on what you can deliver.
2) You don’t really need to understand everything, as long as the system works to your advantage.
3) Face and enjoy changes. Evolve. This, too, shall pass.
4) Be happy with yourself, given all the limits you have, given all the brickbrats you’re getting even from well-intentioned friends, family members, or relatives.
5) Keep cool. Be meditative. Be prayerful.
6) Be valuable, even if you’re not getting paid cash for it. Eventually, you’ll be paid in kind.  Mothers know this best (have you noticed they persist on being  mothers despite the ridiculousness of rearing children who will become thinking adults themselves in time?).
7) Learn to be hungry. But keep away from starving yourself to death (or you’ll be taken advantaged of by employers or clients who believe they can get away from just paying almost zero, as shown in this reply to a Craigslist to an earlier posted gig:
Reply to “Birthday Party Entertaining Opportunity? (East Village)”
Reply to: gigs-kkkwt-1204230232@craigslist.org
Date: 2009-06-03, 8:59PM

Fifty bucks, a measly fifty bucks??!! You’re kidding us, right? Maybe there will be someone desperate enough in these hard economic times who will do it. How cheap and unreasonable can you be? So your party guests and your boyfriend will be sitting there–maybe tipsy with all the drinks–and lavish at the “amazing sight” of a hardworking and talented professional? And not even mentioning, that they will have to take transportation, pay a cab to and/or fro, maybe have to buy new equipment, buy a costume and/or makeup, most likely rehearse at the space, pay someone to transport their belongings, maybe they’ll have a car, but they may have to pay a bridge toll or just gasoline, and then the hard time they will have finding parking (or not, but that is still a possibility), and on top of that, coming to your little and “special” gathering to entertain your guest with the talents and gifts they have studied or worked so hard for, and you’re going to pay them FIFTY BUCKS (even if that’s with the beginning negotiations, still absurd)??!! What are you ? Have you done this before? I am an artist and musician, and this is rude, an insult, and a RIDICULOUS JOKE. Maybe you’re not that bright or considerate. Learn! And know how to pay people what they deserve. It should be at least 100 dollars. If you want an amateur or a wannabe performer then maybe you might want to pay them a little less. But even at that, they’re still giving their time and energy out of there life to ENTERTAIN YOU, YOUR BOYFRIEND, AND YOUR GUESTS. So they should get tips too! And of course, a professional or a very talented and exquisite artist/performer too! Please learn from this and be fair. You wouldn’t want someone to gyp you out of or cheat you from what you deserve. This is not an attack against you, but someone just telling you the truth about the entertainment business. Learn. Please do!

* it’s NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
* Compensation: Someone had to speak up!

Original URL:http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/tlg/1204230232.html

Getting Parttime Jobs; Sticking It Out Here in NYC

Thanks God, I’m able to look and apply for jobs, mainly through Craigslist in its NY site. I have been out of full time work for over a week now. Yesterday, I got to talk with another friend who’s based in LA, California. He’s been out of full time work along the banking industry for over a month now. He’s got reasons why he’s decided to give up his work, and get to doing some other things he’d preferred to work on. I figured I can learn from what he’s undergone so far. He himself had notable managerial experience in banking, and recruiters are in disbelief why he’d give up the perks of being in a managerial position, and get to start again at the bottom in some other jobs which he thought he could do better.

I’ve figured out that I’d like to have parttime jobs now. This has been the route that I’ve thought I can pursue even before I got full time jobs here in NYC. Thankfully, I got a response from an employer, and I’m working later today. The work may last until the wee hours of the day [The work turned out quite fine. I can look forward to receiving more invites in the future for partttime jobs from the network of the employer who hired me to help around in her birthday party].

Meanwhile, I’ve been posting and working on replies from clients for my massage services. It’s been a huge and wonderful experience, doing a lot of praying along the way, and have remained thankful for the results. There’s even one Filipina who I met in the bus on my way to a client, who then referred me to her contacts. I’m looking forward to servicing 2 of her contacts tomorrow night.

Last year, I met a guy who transplanted himself from the comforts of his relatively well paying and comfortable job as an executive in the Philippines, years ago. He’s been doing on a parttime basis the works of a masseur. I noted how this can be an option for me then, but I’ve not thought much of it. I thought I’d just like to have stop gap jobs in the meantime, to help tide me over with the demands and requirements of pursuing a life here in the bigger cities in US. Soon, I got some stop gap jobs, indeed, and have learned valuable skills in the process. I’ve soon gained experience doing designing and related works along floral/events/landscape designing. Now, being out of full time work, I’ve been seeking parttime jobs. I know I’ll receive offers now, sooner or later.